I’m at Odds With My Chair

Dear Faculty Relations: I’m constantly at odds with my department chair. In the past, I’ve been vocal in disagreeing with how decisions are made in our unit. And now she’s retaliated by giving me a bad schedule and speaking ill of me to colleagues. Can someone in Faculty Relations please set her straight? —Had It to Here

Dear Had It: It’s not unusual to feel frustrated by people in positions of authority. After all, they have a measure of control over our lives, and they don’t always earn that control.  

That said, have you had a conversation with your chair? I spend a good part of each day listening to people describe their conflicts. And one thing is certain: each of us—and I certainly include myself—can create stories about the people with whom we share offices, classrooms, neighborhoods and homes. It’s a simple formula: we observe a behavior, make up a story to explain that behavior, and then generate a feeling in response to our story.  

Have you thought much about your story? More importantly, have you asked your chair for her perspective? It’s almost certainly the case that she sees things differently. And it is likely that the way she sees things is based on the narratives that she is telling herself—about you and the rest of the department. Give her the chance to describe how things appear to her, and then ask if she would be willing to hear your side.  

Of course, retaliation does happen. If after having that conversation, you feel confident in your version of events, you should approach your dean. But don’t take this step lightly. Spend time preparing for that conversation too. Ask yourself precisely what you hope to achieve.  

And finally, I should be clear: Faculty Relations can’t step in and solve your problem, not least because our office doesn’t supervise department chairs. What we can do is help you to organize your thoughts, better advocate for yourself, provide restorative practices to improve culture, and coach you to hold difficult conversations. I’m always available to sit down and talk about your concerns.  

Until then, Had It, I wish you—and your chair—meaningful dialogue.  

Written by Burke Hilsabeck, Director of Faculty Relations and Community, Office of Faculty Affairs  

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