Check in and listen:
Express your concerns based on what you’ve noticed.
“You haven’t been yourself lately. You seem really down and haven’t been hanging out with friends. Is there anything you want to talk about?”
If they open up, listen and don’t change the subject.
“I’m glad that you are telling me.”
"I may not understand exactly how you feel, but I hear what you are struggling with and want to help.”
Just listening empathically and allowing a person to talk about their problems can be very helpful. Resist the temptation to give advice or dismiss their concerns. Ask them what you can do to help.
Offer resources for support without pressuring them to seek help if they aren’t ready.
“There are good resources on campus. Can I help you find someone to talk to?”
“OVA provides support after a traumatic event and I’ve heard they are a wonderful resource.”
“The Faculty Staff Assistance Program is a valuable resource for talking through something like this.”