With so much going on in the world around us, it can be tempting to give in to endless scrolling on social media. However, checking every notification and reading every headline can have a negative effect on our mental health.
Here are five things you can do to take control of your feeds and improve your well-being online.
1: Set a time limit
Allow yourself to take a break from social media and the news. Limiting the time you spend on social platforms and news sites can help you feel more at ease. It can also help free up some of your time, so you can focus more of your energy on activities and hobbies you actually enjoy.
One way to decrease your time on social is to designate phone-free spaces. For instance, you may decide that the areas where you do schoolwork are phone-free zones. This can include classrooms, study spaces and your desk area. By keeping your phone out of reach, you may find that you’re able to focus more on class (it has also been shown to improve grades and performance on tests).
Connecting with friends is another great way to take a break from social media or the news and focus on the people you’re with. Spending meaningful time offline can help you disconnect from your feeds and reconnect with your real life.
2: Create boundaries
We all have different expectations for how we interact with people and how we want them to interact with us. Boundaries are a helpful tool to give us agency over our physical safety, communication, emotions, energy and time. They can also help us live by our values and determine what is and isn’t okay.
Setting boundaries online may look different for everyone. Choose boundaries that reflect your values and protect your well-being. Here are a few examples of boundaries you can set for yourself and others on social:
Remember that we cannot control what other people do online, but we can control how we respond to it. Boundaries are just one of the many ways to do this.
3: Focus on things within your control
Just like we can’t control what other people say or do online, we can’t control what the news chooses to report on. If we get absorbed in the news, we may start to catastrophize it by assuming the worst possible outcome will happen. When we do this, we may lose our sense of control.
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by news stories, announcements or hypothetical outcomes, it may be time to take a step back and refocus your attention to things that are within your control. Sometimes it can be helpful to create a list. Here are a few examples of things that you can directly control:
Instead of focusing on what is outside of your control (like the pandemic, politics, current events, etc.), focus more of your time and energy on the things in your life that you have a say in.
4: Mute or unfollow
We all know people who have strong opinions who love to post on social media. Whether it’s a coworker, friend or family member, it’s important to remember that we have the power to control what appears on our feeds. If your social platforms have become hostile or are negatively impacting your mental health, it may be time to hit mute or unfollow.
Muting can be a great tool to hide disturbing posts or rescue yourself from heated debates and discussions. If you don’t have a close relationship with someone, unfriending or blocking them may be good options. This will remove them from your view entirely and stop any notifications about their posts, comments and messages.
5: Pause before you post
It can be tempting to vent or troll accounts online when we are feeling upset, overwhelmed or frustrated. However, it’s important to remember that our actions can have consequences down the line. Employers and graduate admissions officers often check candidates’ social media profiles during the hiring and recruitment processes, and they may look back further than you’d think. Group accounts and even those that aren’t directly tied to you can have a negative impact on your future.
Before you post, ask yourself:
If it seems like you may find yourself in hot water, skip the share button. If you’re feeling emotional, angry or hurt, give yourself some time. Allow your emotions to settle before doing anything or making decisions that could affect you or your relationships. Oftentimes, our emotional mind hijacks our brain, which can lead to consequences that can be uncomfortable or destructive. Don't allow frustrations or disagreements to affect your reputation online.
Campus resources
Let's Talk
If you're feeling overwhelmed by current events, Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) offers free drop-in sessions around campus as part of their Let's Talk program. These sessions are a great way to meet with a counselor to get insight, support and connect with additional support services, like workshops.
Office of Victim Assistance
OVA provides free and confidential support, consultation, advocacy and short-term trauma counseling to all CU Boulder students, graduate students, staff and faculty who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic, disturbing or life-disrupting event. Their office also offers support for those who are helping a friend, partner, family member or colleague through a traumatic experience.
Student Conduct and Conflict Resolution (SCCR)
SCCR has free conflict coaching sessions available to help you develop your personal conflict style or talk about current and ongoing conflicts. These sessions can enable you to thoughtfully consider your approach to conflict resolution and generate solutions to existing conflicts you may be experiencing.
Student Support and Case Management (SSCM)
If you need help identifying or connecting with campus and community resources, SSCM can help. Case managers work directly with students to figure out what resources would work best for your concerns or situation. You can also refer a friend or classmate if you are concerned about how they are doing.