Feeling homesick? 4 ways to cope
Whether you've just started your college journey or you’re in your final year, it's totally normal to miss home or feel a little out of place sometimes. The good news? There are plenty of ways to build connections and feel more at home on campus. Here are a few simple strategies to help you feel more grounded and connected.
Navigate change
Even if it doesn’t always show, many students feel homesick or lonely at some point. It’s completely okay to miss your people, your routines or the comfort of home—especially after a big transition.
The important thing to remember? These feelings are temporary, and you’ve likely navigated transitions like this before. As you settle in, meet new people and find your rhythm, things usually start to feel easier and more familiar. Lean into your strengths and remember what helped you adjust to change in previous situations.
Here are some tips to help in the meantime:
- Set small goals. Try attending one campus event, joining a club, or simply chatting with someone new each week. Little steps can lead to big changes.
- Remember your “why.” Think about what brought you to CU and the exciting opportunities ahead. You’re here for a reason, and your journey is just beginning.
- Feel your feelings. It’s okay to feel sad or overwhelmed sometimes. Let yourself feel it, then gently shift your focus—call a friend, read something uplifting or listen to your favorite song.
- Reframe homesickness. Missing home means you have strong, loving connections—and that’s something to be grateful for.
Stay in touch
No matter how you're feeling, keeping in touch with friends and family back home can be a powerful way to stay grounded. Regular check-ins, whether it’s quick texts or long video chats, can help ease feelings of homesickness and remind you that you're supported and loved. And if you're having a tough time, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you trust. Talking things through can help you feel less alone and more understood.
Try these ways to stay connected:
- Schedule regular calls or video chats. Even short conversations can make a big difference.
- Send letters or postcards. Getting something in the mail is always a sweet surprise.
- Share your college experience on social. Keep the meme exchange going or post updates to stay connected.
- Start a group chat. Keep everyone in the loop and share support, laughs, and life updates.
Establish a routine
College life comes with a lot of new responsibilities—living on your own, navigating campus, managing classes, and figuring out your schedule. One of the best ways to feel a sense of control is by building a routine that fits your life.
Even small habits can help reduce stress and make your days feel more predictable. Just remember routines aren’t one-size-fits-all, and it’s totally okay to modify yours as you adjust to the new semester.
Here are some easy ways to build structure into your week:
- Plan your day. Block out time for studying, classes and socializing.
- Include your favorite activities or hobbies. Intentionally making time for things you enjoy can help boost your mood and add balance to your routine.
- Find your go-to study spot. A space that helps you focus can make a big difference.
- Stick to a cleaning or laundry schedule. Keeping your space tidy helps your mind feel clearer, too.
Put yourself out there
Making friends in college can feel different than it did growing up. It might seem intimidating to open up or meet new people, but those feelings are normal. If you're still searching for your crew, you're definitely not alone.
The good news? There are lots of ways to connect with others and build meaningful friendships over time.
Try these strategies to meet new friends:
- Be a regular. Showing up consistently to clubs, campus events or study sessions helps people get to know you.
- Sit near the same people in class. Familiar faces can turn into friendships—study groups are a great way to start.
- Start with group hangouts. If hanging out one-on-one feels intimidating, try joining group activities or events.
- Make the first move. Chances are that others are also looking for connection. Invite someone to join you at an event or the dining center—it might mean more to them than you realize.
Remember, transitioning to college life is a journey, not a race. Give yourself grace as you grow and try new things. Each step you take, no matter how small, moves you closer to feeling truly at home. Be patient with yourself, lean into opportunities and celebrate every win along the way. You’re creating your own unique college story, and with time, you’ll find the comfort and community you’re looking for.
Find support
If you’re struggling to connect with others, feel lonely or need some extra help, try connecting with support resources on campus.
Peer Wellness Coaching: Meet with a trained student to explore ways to make friends on campus, set goals, create routines and make the most of your time at CU Boulder.
Campus Life: Learn about programs and opportunities to help you get involved, meet fellow Buffs, enjoy life on campus and prepare for your future.
Counseling & Psychiatric Services (CAPS): CAPS offers confidential, on-campus mental health and psychiatric services for a variety of concerns such as academics, anxiety, depression, relationships, substance use and more.