Whether your roommate is your best friend or someone you just met this year, chances are you’ll hit a few bumps throughout the semester. The truth is conflict between roommates is totally normal. Living with someone can be a great way to learn about ourselves and help us learn to adapt with others. However, when conflict gets out of hand, it can affect our emotional and physical wellbeing. From small skirmishes to major issues, there are resources available on campus that can help. Here are some steps you can take to address roommate problems.
Know your conflict style
When you have a disagreement with someone, what do you do? Do you tend to ignore the problem or avoid the person? Do you confront them right away? Do you look for compromise?
Everyone approaches conflict differently. When addressing conflict, it can be helpful to know your own style as well as your roommate’s style. Knowing how you both address conflict can help you find common ground and where your styles may clash. Take the conflict style quiz to learn more about your conflict style.
Talk with your roommate
It seems obvious but talking with your roommate is always the first step when it comes to resolving issues. Here are some pointers to get you started:
Connect with others
It’s important to remember that your roommate is just one person you’ll meet during your college experience. If you’re struggling with roommate issues, focus on the relationships you have outside of your living situation. Spend time with friends, join a student organization or find a hobby to enjoy with other people. When you are at home, focus on creating an amicable relationship. You don’t have to be best friends or even like each other, but respecting one another and your differences can go a long way in making the rest of the year a little bit better.